The True Cost of Divorce

Divorce is Expensive: Save Your Marriage Instead

Couples do not usually calculate the true cost of divorce when they are considering whether to work through their marital issues or get divorced. The true cost of divorce includes many aspects that most people fail to recognize as being part of the total cost (both monetary and emotional) of divorce.

Possible Marriage Problems

If you're considering divorce, you probably have a history of marital problems, which could involve any or all of the following:

True Cost of Divorce

Divorce has many financial and emotional costs. You must contemplate each factor and determine if it is really worth it to get a divorce. In many cases it is a better choice to stay married.

Financial Costs to Consider:

Emotional Costs to Consider:

Save Your Marriage

There is hope! Many married couples who are on the brink of divorce find that they are able to save their marriages by putting forth effort and working together to create a marriage that is better than it ever was.

Can You Admit You Might Be Wrong?

There are many hidden negative aspects to divorce. Unfortunately, many couples get caught up in the momentum.

Suicide As An Analogy

Think of someone who might be contemplating suicide. This person might have normal ups and downs, and at a time of an extreme down period forget many good experiences and feel defeated, thinking there could be no future good times.

If the person gets caught up in that negative momentum, he might murder himself without fully considering that life is a long-term project with ups and downs because at that moment the struggle to continue feels too daunting.

Divorce is Long-Term, With Ups and Downs

Divorce can be like a suicide or murder of your marriage. At the moment, one of the spouses feels that the effort to fix the marriage is just too discouraging. Sometimes, they may have even tried counseling, but it "didn't work".

If you really knew how much pain and financial and emotional cost divorce could create in your situation, perhaps you'd reconsider.

A Wonderful Marriage Takes Work and Time

Let me be clear, though, creating a wonderful marriage takes work and time. Wouldn't it be wonderful if you could take what you started when you first married and make it into something wonderful now?

If you put in that hard work and manage to turn your relationship around, the history you now see as filled with negatives will turn around also. Then you will be able to see again the strength in the history and family you share together.

Think About Working on Your Marriage

Take a deep breath and think about working on your marriage. You were once very much in love and had great times together, even if it is difficult in your present state to remember those wonderful shared experiences.

Good marriage counseling can help you get back to that point. The bad feelings and problems in your marriage are built up over years from neglect and taking for granted what you have. Instead of divorce, consider marriage counseling with a marriage-friendly counselor who has appropriate experience for your situation.

With proper guidance from an expert and work on your part, you can most probably retrieve the love in your marriage and avoid divorce. You will save thousands and possibly tens of thousands of dollars in lawyer's fees and other costs, as well as saving on all the emotional costs.

I wish you all the best in finding the love you've lost in the spouse whose history you have shared for years.

Marriage Help to Stop Divorce

I help couples from all over the world put their marriages back together in my office in Baltimore, Maryland (in the town of Pikesville). These couples work with me and make their marriage better than it ever was.

I have been helping couples fix their broken marriages for over 35 years. I can probably help you fix your marriage too. Please call me on 410-654-1300 or toll-free on 866-654-1300 to discuss your options (marriage counseling or marriage retreats) further.

Self-Help Marriage Programs

For those that are confident in their abilities to work through issues on their own, but need direction, or for those that are financially unable to attend marriage counseling, I have created various marriage self-help programs to help you save your marriage.

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