My therapy style is the product of over 40 years as a licensed psychologist counseling couples in trouble and helping those couples come back from the brink of divorce. I even help couples survive a marital affair, when the marriage is able to be saved.

I strive to be holistic in my approach to clients.

Your thoughts, ideas and beliefs influence your internal chemistry and the tension in your muscles, among other things. Conversely, your body chemistry, the condition of your body and muscles, and your environment influence the state of your mind, your thoughts and your emotions. Together, these factors and others contribute to your sense of dis-ease or your sense of well-being.

It is as if everything that influences you flows into a metaphorical “container”, and the sum total of what is in that “container” and what is not in it affect your being either for the good or for the bad. I consider it my job to bring together your mind, body, and spirit and to repair “leaks” in the container and to restore and enhance your enjoyment of life.

I am an active listener.

When I listen, I really listen to the nuances and complexities of your particular situation. This is one reason clients like working with me because they feel confident in my full understanding of their wants and needs. Clients also tell me that they particularly like how I work together with them to help them make changes happen.

I am an active participant in the session.

The process of active therapy is one of back-and-forth dialogue. I am not the counselor who sits back just saying “uh-huh.” My style is often described as that of a coach, which includes instruction and practice to help you learn and utilize new skills.

I will side with the better parts of you.

Being pro-family and pro-integrity are trademarks in my practice. You will find that I partner with your honest part and with your own highest principles. Our partnership will have the clear goal of keeping your family together.

Anger does not have to be part of your relationship.

Some people think anger is necessary in a relationship, like the pressure release on a steam cooker. Perhaps there are rare times for this, but too often it is an excuse for putting your spouse down, demonstrating selfishness, control, or spewing out a one-sided argument, or some other destructive process. I find that if you learn how to manage yourself properly you usually don’t get angry in the first place and then there is no pressure to release.